Sometimes it's past midnight
Originally posted on Diary-X
I celebrated St. Patrick’s Day with vegetarian potstickers in a nice wasabi sauce (thanks, Trader Joe’s!) and the scratchy Anthology recordings of the Beatles’ White Album. A far cry from 2002, but it’s all I could manage this year, what with dog-walking duties right after work and a severe disdain for drunken hordes of twenty-somethings wearing green plastic beads and shamrock stickers on their cheeks. I’d love to be sitting in a small, dark pub right now, sipping my first stateside Smithwick’s and tapping my toes as traditional Irish musicians do their thing, but alas. This year ’tis not to be.
It’s probably best that I’m going beer-free this evening. Lately, I’ve had a nagging suspicion that I’ve gained a pound or two. We don’t have a scale; I’ve always judged my body by how it looks, not how much it weighs. I honestly don’t care about the numbers—if my jeans zip, I’m happy. And they still zip; they just feel a little…tight. I will admit that I’ve been making some poor food choices lately, and my workouts have been subpar. Hence, the scare of the week: After work today I popped into Old Navy to procure a pair of shorts for the summer. (Yes, it snowed all morning, but still. I will continue to focus on shorts-wearing weather.) I grabbed a few different styles in size 6, 8, and 10—I’m usually an 8, but one never knows with these cheap retailers. When I got into the dressing room, I grabbed a 10 and slipped them on, expecting bagginess. But no—the cute blue shorts fit perfectly. Like a glove, only, you know, over my hips. I began mentally hyperventilating. Size 10 shorts are not! supposed! to fit me! like a glove! I whipped them off, checked the label, and breathed an audible sigh of relief upon discovering that I’d actually grabbed the size 8 pair. I guess I do care about the numbers.
I’m not sure how to creatively segue into my next subject, so I’ll just dispense with creativity and say that yesterday was election day in Illinois. The good Democrats of this state gave John Kerry the final delegates he needed to gain the nomination. (You’re welcome, John Kerry!) Since we just moved a few months ago, I wasn’t quite sure where to vote, so I had to do a bit of trekking around our neighborhood after work. It was cold, and I was wearing my cheap uncomfortable boots from Payless, and I began to silently whine as I waited at a busy intersection: It’s windy, and that freak guy across the street is staring at me, and I just want to go home and eat a pound of walnut-gorgonzola tortellini (see poor eating choices, above), and when will these stupid SUVs stop blowing their stupid horns at each other? Suddenly I realized what I was doing, and I shut myself up, aghast. I know it sounds cliché, but I thought of all the women in the Middle East who want to vote and can’t, and who would gladly walk six blocks on a paved surface to get to the polls, faces free to feel the air, and I was mortified at my behavior.
Sometimes I suspect that perhaps I am not the world’s most selfless person. Sometimes it’s past midnight, and I can’t sleep, and I lie in bed listening to the husband sighing in his sleep and the dog kicking his back legs against the dresser as he races around the track in his dreams, and I think, I wish I was a better person. I wonder why I don’t want a baby—is it pure selfishness? would a better person want a baby?—and I wonder if I’m really a good spouse or if I just haven’t been tested yet in our blessed, peaceful marriage. I think about how cynical I can be, the sharp sarcasm of my tongue when I’m commenting about politicians or the news. I worry that I am a faker Christian, a Sunday-morning-only Christian. Why aren’t I volunteering at our parish’s weekly lunch for the homeless? Why aren’t I praying regularly every day, reading my Book of Common Prayer that sits, covered in a fine layer of dust, on my nighttable?
This is the hole I dug myself into last Friday night. It’s a lonely feeling, lying awake in the dark while your spouse sleeps, wondering if, perhaps, you are a shallow person. Eventually I fell asleep, and in the morning, I decided to try on a new coat of patience and humility and kind speech. And I’ve already failed a few times since then, but you know, I’ve also succeeded a few times. Maybe the fact that it’s Lent helps. I don’t know. But I suppose it’s a lifelong project, trying to be better, moving toward light, and the important thing is to not forget to try. (Note: It would be a lot easier to succeed at the kind speech part if there wasn't a general election in seven months.)
I celebrated St. Patrick’s Day with vegetarian potstickers in a nice wasabi sauce (thanks, Trader Joe’s!) and the scratchy Anthology recordings of the Beatles’ White Album. A far cry from 2002, but it’s all I could manage this year, what with dog-walking duties right after work and a severe disdain for drunken hordes of twenty-somethings wearing green plastic beads and shamrock stickers on their cheeks. I’d love to be sitting in a small, dark pub right now, sipping my first stateside Smithwick’s and tapping my toes as traditional Irish musicians do their thing, but alas. This year ’tis not to be.
It’s probably best that I’m going beer-free this evening. Lately, I’ve had a nagging suspicion that I’ve gained a pound or two. We don’t have a scale; I’ve always judged my body by how it looks, not how much it weighs. I honestly don’t care about the numbers—if my jeans zip, I’m happy. And they still zip; they just feel a little…tight. I will admit that I’ve been making some poor food choices lately, and my workouts have been subpar. Hence, the scare of the week: After work today I popped into Old Navy to procure a pair of shorts for the summer. (Yes, it snowed all morning, but still. I will continue to focus on shorts-wearing weather.) I grabbed a few different styles in size 6, 8, and 10—I’m usually an 8, but one never knows with these cheap retailers. When I got into the dressing room, I grabbed a 10 and slipped them on, expecting bagginess. But no—the cute blue shorts fit perfectly. Like a glove, only, you know, over my hips. I began mentally hyperventilating. Size 10 shorts are not! supposed! to fit me! like a glove! I whipped them off, checked the label, and breathed an audible sigh of relief upon discovering that I’d actually grabbed the size 8 pair. I guess I do care about the numbers.
I’m not sure how to creatively segue into my next subject, so I’ll just dispense with creativity and say that yesterday was election day in Illinois. The good Democrats of this state gave John Kerry the final delegates he needed to gain the nomination. (You’re welcome, John Kerry!) Since we just moved a few months ago, I wasn’t quite sure where to vote, so I had to do a bit of trekking around our neighborhood after work. It was cold, and I was wearing my cheap uncomfortable boots from Payless, and I began to silently whine as I waited at a busy intersection: It’s windy, and that freak guy across the street is staring at me, and I just want to go home and eat a pound of walnut-gorgonzola tortellini (see poor eating choices, above), and when will these stupid SUVs stop blowing their stupid horns at each other? Suddenly I realized what I was doing, and I shut myself up, aghast. I know it sounds cliché, but I thought of all the women in the Middle East who want to vote and can’t, and who would gladly walk six blocks on a paved surface to get to the polls, faces free to feel the air, and I was mortified at my behavior.
Sometimes I suspect that perhaps I am not the world’s most selfless person. Sometimes it’s past midnight, and I can’t sleep, and I lie in bed listening to the husband sighing in his sleep and the dog kicking his back legs against the dresser as he races around the track in his dreams, and I think, I wish I was a better person. I wonder why I don’t want a baby—is it pure selfishness? would a better person want a baby?—and I wonder if I’m really a good spouse or if I just haven’t been tested yet in our blessed, peaceful marriage. I think about how cynical I can be, the sharp sarcasm of my tongue when I’m commenting about politicians or the news. I worry that I am a faker Christian, a Sunday-morning-only Christian. Why aren’t I volunteering at our parish’s weekly lunch for the homeless? Why aren’t I praying regularly every day, reading my Book of Common Prayer that sits, covered in a fine layer of dust, on my nighttable?
This is the hole I dug myself into last Friday night. It’s a lonely feeling, lying awake in the dark while your spouse sleeps, wondering if, perhaps, you are a shallow person. Eventually I fell asleep, and in the morning, I decided to try on a new coat of patience and humility and kind speech. And I’ve already failed a few times since then, but you know, I’ve also succeeded a few times. Maybe the fact that it’s Lent helps. I don’t know. But I suppose it’s a lifelong project, trying to be better, moving toward light, and the important thing is to not forget to try. (Note: It would be a lot easier to succeed at the kind speech part if there wasn't a general election in seven months.)
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